The word mourning in sanskrit means "to remember". Reminiscing is one of the important ways we mourn. Remembering positive things can help lift us out of depression and sadness of grief. In this case, the past is available and actually useful to us, because it provides a thread of continuity as we rework our story in light of this new loss. Reminiscing helps us to get in touch with our own values and ideals as well as the qualities we admired or appreciated in our loved ones. It also involves not only positive recollecting, but making room to remember all of the very human parts of our loved ones and our relationship with them. It helps bring perspective to our grief, and as we learn to see clearly what we had, our awareness and wisdom deepen. This helps us to move forward in peace and with power, not despite what life handed us, but because of it :).
Leslie Palumbo, LCSW, is a psychotherapist, author and meditation teacher who has worked extensively with grief and mindfulness. Leslie helps clients to connect with the sense of peace permeating everything through energy work and the use of in-the-moment meditation techniques such as inner body awareness, the breath, nature, stillness, silence, and surrender. It is her ultimate intention to help people open their awareness to the peace and beauty in every moment.